Posted by: TLC Fellowship | October 12, 2014

Am I Loved?

by Chameka Jacques, member of TLC Fellowship

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.   1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ( NKJV)

As a woman who speaks my mind, I always say, “I wish someone would put their hands on me!” The cliché that you always hear is, “How could she just stay and let someone abuse her?” It’s easier to say until you are in an abusive relationship. Your mind tells you that you wouldn’t tolerate this or that. I felt the same way until my life changed. I went from being outgoing, fun and loving life to an isolated person that didn’t feel good about myself.

I didn’t know until I became saved and started reading the Bible that I was in an abusive relationship. I was humiliated, often told I was nothing, kept away from family and friends, and given an allowance. I was taught that this was love and he wouldn’t do this to me unless he loved me. He is only making sure that I’m okay. Well, that’s what he told me. He just wanted to make sure that I was not hurt by family or other people. He was the only one that loved me. You don’t realize that you are being stripped of self-worth.

Although I was never abused physically, I was abused. You see, abuse comes in several forms–physical, emotional, verbal, and psychological. The average person thinks abuse is just physical, but that’s not so. Most men and women who are abused have been taught that this is a form of love from their abuser. Love doesn’t hurt; love doesn’t make you feel useless. Love is good, strong, faithful, peaceful, trusting. So ask yourself today–am I loved?

Prayer: Father, our God in Heaven, help us to understand what love is, what love will do and the sense of comfort that love will bring to a lonely spirit. Help us to know that you are there for us. When we call out your name, you hear our cries and prayers. Teach us to understand that we are not alone. Give us the strength of David, to know we can stand up to any Goliath as long as we know you are on our side. When we feel that we are at our darkest time, shine your light to help us see the path to your love. In all things let Your will be done. This is my prayer in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Editor’s Note: We are grateful to Chameka for sharing her experiences from a previous relationship in order to help others. She is now happily married and enjoying life in a loving and supportive relationship with her husband and son.

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