Posted by: TLC Fellowship | January 29, 2013

How Do You Treat Your Family Members?

By Shumphert Holbert, II, Member of TLC Fellowship

14 And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone.  15 Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else.  16 Rejoice always, 17 pray continually, 18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. ~ 1 Thessalonians 5:14-18

7 In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace 8 that he lavished on us. ~ Ephesians 1:7-8

In light of the horrible tragedy that took the life of former Dallas Cowboys player Jerry Brown, Josh Brent has been welcomed and consoled by his teammates following the wishes of Brown’s mother, Stacey Jackson.  At the memorial service for her son, she told the Cowboys players to care for Brent and keep him involved with the team as much as they could.

When I heard that at the request of Brown’s mother Brent was asked to meet their family at the airport, ride with them to the memorial service, and sit with the family, I thought—wow, what a God-fearing, courageous, forgiving woman—only to be upset by hearing a local sports radio host blast this woman’s humility in her decision to not only weep but encourage and embrace the person responsible for her son’s death.  The female radio personality ranted about how her feelings of revenge and hatred would not allow her the spirit of forgiveness like that of Stacey Jackson.

Hearing the hateful, revengeful rant made me think . . . how does she treat her family members?  Well, it’s very obvious how Stacey Jackson treat hers.  In an interview on CNN, Brown’s mother told Piers Morgan, “Because I know Josh Brent, and he’s been part of our family since Jerry went to the University of Illinois, that’s all I can do is pray for him and his family, because I know he’s hurting just as well as we are, because [him] and Jerry were like brothers.”

Theresa Clark, Brown’s grandmother, said she too has “no ill feelings,” toward Brent, because after all, “He loved Jerry.” This woman did not allow doom to steal the joy that Jesus has given her and should remind us not to allow our doom/circumstances to rob us of the joy Jesus freely gives us.

Stacey Jackson imitated Christ’s humility by providing encouragement, comfort, tenderness, and compassion.  She valued Josh Brent’s worth above hers in a time when everyone thought she would need consoling the most. But instead she stood firm on her faith, opened her heart, and loved Josh Brent as a “family member.”

Prayer: Our God, Our Father rid of us of any bitterness or anger towards others.  Instead let love be our guide. Let us be kind, merciful, and forgiving.  Let us forgive others because You have forgiven us. Amen.


  1. Good Word…!!!

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